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TWO Love and Logic MomentS:
By Dr. Charles Fay
Wise Fathers Focus on Character
I received a wonderful letter describing a wonderful father:
Dear Dr. Fay,
As a kid I didn’t always like my dad. As a man I love him deeply. I thought of Love and Logic the other day after visiting with him about our son—his grandson.
“We’re concerned about how he acted at the game,” I confessed.
He said, “Yeah, he’s a great kid, but he wasn’t a great sport when the other team started winning.”
“That’s right. We’re thinking of pulling him from the next game as soon as he starts to act that way.”
“Good plan,” he said. “Why didn’t you do that on Saturday?”
My dad is a sweet guy, but he concerns himself a lot more with what is right than trying to make people feel good all of the time.
“I worry about damaging my relationship with him,” I answered sheepishly.
“Your relationship is important, but your son becoming a good man is more important.”
His words made me think about my relationship with him. I always knew he loved me, but I also knew that he was far more concerned with my character than how I felt about him. Strangely, this led me toward loving and respecting him with all of my heart.
It seems like my dad is a lot like Jim Fay!
Great dads…and moms… send a powerful message to their children:
I love you. That’s why I care more about you becoming a good person than you liking me.
If I had to choose between you becoming a good person and you loving me, I’d choose you becoming a good person.
Thankfully we don’t have to choose between the two. Love and Logic equips us with the tools for disciplining our kids without losing their love.
Happy Father’s Day!
#2
Little Kids Have ‘Big Ears’
Have you ever noticed how kids’ ears tend to shrink when we try to tell them something really important? Have you also noticed how these very same ears swell when we are trying to have a private conversation with another adult?
It’s a basic fact of human nature. People just have the hardest time ignoring conversations that are happening around them. We can take advantage of this fascinating phenomenon by talking about the key things we want our kids to learn…just within their hearing distance.
The more our kids overhear us talking about how we are proud to act honestly, the more likely they’ll act honestly.
The more they overhear us talking about our own love of learning, the more interested in learning they will become.
The more positive comments they overhear us making about their schools and their teachers, the more respectful and motivated they will be around their schools and their teachers.
My father never tried to talk me into studying psychology, becoming an author, and teaching Love and Logic. Instead I overheard him time and time again talking about how much he loved doing these things.
Thanks for reading! Dr. Charles Fay