CALENDAR
BUBBA’S CLOSET is a FREE winter school clothes for elementary school age children. BUBBA’S CLOSET will be Saturday, Nov. 15 at McPhee School, 820 S. 15th Street from 8:30-9:30 a.m.
Nov. 17 CITW2 Training (Christensen, Spangler, Kulas, Bonaiuto)
Nov. 18 Staff meeting 4:00-5:15 p.m. (Required of certificated staff.)
AGENDA: PLC protocols
CITW2 areas to emphasize in instruction
Use of social media by professionals (Jeff Gade, HR)
Nov. 19 Title 1 Principals meeting 7:30-11:00 at LPSDO
Nov. 21 PTA Family Movie Night FREE: The Lego Movie
Adults must bring and stay with children.
No outside food or drink allowed in the gym.
Electronics (phones, ipads, etc.) must be turned off in movie.
Nov. 24 Elementary Principals Council 12-4:30 at LPSDO
Nov. 25 PLC Early Out day 0 dismiss 2:18
Nov. 26 NO SCHOOL
Nov. 27 NO SCHOOL
Nov. 28 NO SCHOOL
Dec. 1 NO SCHOOL for elementary students: Teacher Plan Day
Dec. 2 Chorus Concert 7 p.m.
Dec. 2 Chorus Concert rehearsal at 2:50 in gym for any classes that want to attend
Dec. 3 BIST consult day
Dec. 8 Technology Planning Committee 8:10 in library
Dec. 9 Band Concert 7 p.m.
Dec. 9 Band Concert rehearsal at 2:50 in gym for any classes that want to attend
Dec. 10 Principals Elementary Council at district office 7:30-12
Dec. 16 PLC Early Out DAY 0 2:18
Dec. 16 Strings Concert 7 p.m.
Dec. 19 End of Quarter 2/Semester
Dec. 22-Jan. 2 Winter Break
Jan. 5 Classes Resume
Love and Logic Moment
By Dr. Charles Fay
To get a handle on what successful step-parents do, it’s helpful to first get a glimpse at what less successful ones try. I call the first well-intentioned yet doomed approach the “Wrecking Ball” step-parenting style. These folks take on the role of demolition expert in the family. They storm in with a crash, trying to rebuild every aspect of the kids’ behavior. Like drill sergeants, their favorite tools include lectures, threats, lots of new rules and plenty of micro-managing.
I call the second well-intentioned yet ineffective approach the “Refugee” step-parent style. Because they don’t want to step on any toes, these folks never really live in the home. Instead, they set up camp in the backyard. Peeking out of their tent screen, they watch the kids throw their daily refuse onto the lawn in front of them. Because they don’t want to insult the kids by trying to replace their “real” parent, these step-parents use no tools. They simply walk on eggshells, adopting an outsider, doormat role.
Successful step-parents obsessively follow the first rule of Love and Logic:
Take great care of yourself by setting limits without anger, lectures, threats, or repeated warnings.
Instead of trying to reconstruct through strict discipline…or walk on eggshells by remaining an outsider, they use Enforceable Statements to assertively describe how they will operate. Examples include:
- I’ll listen when your voice is calm.
- I’ll be happy to do the extra things I do for you when I feel respected.
- I’ll get that for you when I see that you’ve finished your chores.
- I argue at six o’clock on Saturday mornings.
- I’ll let you know about that after I talk with your dad (or mom).
- I’m fine with you having that as long as you have the money to pay for it.
For more ideas on setting limits with Enforceable Statements, study our CD, Love Me Enough to Set Some Limits. Thanks for reading! Our goal is to help as many families as possible. If this is a benefit, forward it to a friend.